We've talked about dating in NYC, we've talked about the diversity. In this post I want to talk about the general 'type' of person who lives there, and how it's hard to say anything at all about the demographic.
First, I want to start with a contrast. If you have a male, college-educated friend in the West coast, particularly in Bay Area or Seattle, one can make certain assumptions about them with a high certainty. They're probably in the tech industry or adjacent field, like nature or enjoy hiking or something similar, and particularly if they are engineering minded, they come from a very specific demographic group. And then you can make further generalizations about their politics, their beliefs and so forth. While wild generalizations, they unfortunately come up to be true because those towns are monocultures, single-industry towns that are populated by certain kind of people. Much like old towns of the yore in these parts had miners or related fields, we know have techies and related professionals.
You cannot make the same assumption about NYC. If I went to NYC, nobody would make any assumption about me either. I could be a finance bro, or a tech bro, maybe a non-profit worker, perhaps a restaurant worker, a day-worker perhaps, and all the things in between. Because there are so many options, because the economy is so big, there are all kinds of people in there.
You don't have to be rich to live in NYC. Which means you cannot make assumptions about people who live their either. They can be outrageously rich, or just about making it. They could be married with kids, forever single, or something in between. You can't make assumption about their family or heritage from their looks either, because it is one city where literally every ethic group has a decently large presence.
And all of that transfers to the 'vibe' of people also. There are artsy people, there are boring tech people, crazy tech people, diving people, brewing folks, walkers, joggers, runners, mountaineers, peace activists, war activists, nuclear scientists, eco-terrorists, and everything in between. People are looking for different kinds of things from their lives. Perhaps a casual hookup, or maybe a long term relationship, or anything in between. Maybe they're looking for a nice, kind person, or a total jerk asshole who they can empathize. If there's one thing you can generalize about the people there, it's that they're quite diverse and they cover all the ends of all the spectrums.
And therein comes the benefit of dating. You will eventually find your person, it's the law of numbers. It's the number of new york city. If you know what you want, and have a good idea of how you'll get there, you life will be simpler. Effort needs to be put in, of course, nobody is being handed what they want on a platter, but the place provides. There is a person of every kind, there is a person for every person in New York City. Persons, even. See that article about NY polycules, ugh.
It's uhhh quite a place, huh?
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