The domestic lives of Shiva and parvati

The home life of Siva and his spouse does not appear to have been of the happiest.
As they could each bestow gifts upon their worshippers, it sometimes happened
that the one wanted to bless those whom the other wished to curse. In the
Rāmāyana and Mahābhārata247 is an account of a dispute between them in
connection with the struggle between Rāma and Rāvana. In the earlier part of the
contest, Rāma being unable to overthrow his enemy because of the assistance
afforded him by Siva, the gods whom Rāvana had oppressed went, with Rāma at
their head, to ask him to withdraw his help. Siva consented to accompany them on
the seventh day of the conflict to witness the destruction of their foe. Durgā
(Pārvati) severely reproached her husband, asking how he could witness the
destruction of his own worshiper, a worshiper who had stood praying to him in
the most sultry weather surrounded by four fires; who had continued his devotions
in the chilling cold, standing in water; and had persevered in his applications,
standing on his head, amid torrents of rain. She then poured forth a torrent of
abuse, calling him a withered old man, who smoked intoxicating herbs, lived in
cemeteries and covered himself with ashes, and asked if he thought she would
accompany him on such an errand. Siva now gets angry, and reminds his wife that
she was only a woman and therefore could know nothing; and further that she does
not act like a woman, because she too wandered about from place to place,
engaged in war, was a drunkard, spent her time in the company of degraded
beings, killed giants, drank their blood and hung their skulls around her neck.
Durgā became so enraged at these reproaches, that the gods were frightened. They
entreated Rāma to join them in supplication to her, or Rāvana would never be
destroyed. He did so; she then became propitious and consented to the destruction
of the demon. Durgā is represented in the Sivopākhyana as being exceedingly
jealous because her husband, in his begging excursions, visited the quarters of the
town inhabited by women of ill-fame, and in the Rāmāyana is an account of a
terrible quarrel between them because Parasurāma beat her sons Kartikeya and
Ganesa.

- Hindu Myths, Vedic and Puranic, by WJ Wilkins (1900)