Probably mentioned this in an earlier post without mentioning the detail, but I'm running out of gossip and there's nothing else to write really, since we've all been caged up aaahhh I don't want to complain but this summer should be the summer of freedom, when we get to breathe in some fresh air. So here, let me say this: my good friend is getting marrying, to...yes of course, his girlfriend of ten years, who also went to our school, this June. Big deal, it's a very big deal.
The thing is, people in my circle and periphery haven't really married-married. As in, go to Nepal, make the rounds, put on the tika, go to the judge, get a certificate, call a thousand people, and legit get married. Because when you do that, when you tell the society you're like married, they treat you like an 'adult', you get a seat in the 'big people' tables at parties. You're judged for your social missteps, and the expectations increase quite significantly, for gifts, calls, festivals everything. Inside you're the same goddamn person barely able to take care of yourselves. For society you're a brand-new adult person who should really know better than to do all this bullshit, you're married for godssake.
But marriage has its benefits. As in the facebook kind of marriage. Mostly it relieves parents of stress about social obligations and their children's futures. And people get a nice fancy party out of it. The economy is stimulated because the money you should really have been spending on buying a new house or car or towards your parents' retirement is wasted away, frittered. And sure it's fun, but it's also hella lotta work for everybody. And your parents feel old afterwards.
It's just the start.
After Sbk and PB, sb and ps are getting married later this year. And then...who knows?
Some of us guys are getting nervous, we're looking at each other, getting on hours-long conversation telling it's going to be alright there's no reason to freak, that other people are marrying doesn't mean it's an expectation for us as well. But really, this has to mean something right.
The pressure's on, and we're unsure if we can handle it.
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