A compliment I get often from friends, acquaintances, coworkers and people I just meet are: oh wow you have so many active hobbies that you like to maintain. You're making the most of your time! That is all true, but it's just...alright.
The retort to that, if I may, is that I'm single and in my late-twenties-to-early-thirties age range, which means that there's not a lot of other stuff to do. It's not like I have somebody to spend hours and hours every day with, it's not like I have kids, and certainly I'm not going out partying every third night like we were doing even until two years ago. It's a life of a settled adult, who needs to find ways to keep themselves engaged, but also find ways to engage with their community and people around them. And so, just picking up all of these things, to understand the world better, connect more strongly with everyone around me.
People say they didn't have so many exciting things happening in their lives when they WERE single, but then if they were in their early thirties too, and just as single, the story would likely be quite different because there's lots of spare time and not much to do. Your friends have their schedules and timetables established, they have places to be at, partners to attend to, children to look after, families to be with. Or they are super duper engaged with their jobs and don't have time for much else. So my situation isn't that unique, it's just that it's one of the few options I can take to make my choices more explicit.
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